I have nothing against flash particularly, it served it's purpose in it's day, however I do have something against people so blind to it's flaws as socreative appears to be.
Giving us the kb of jquery is hardly comparing the two. I'm not going to dig around to find the actual data for jquery size, javascript engine speeds, flash plugin size, flash script load times and sizes etc etc but as your so damn quick to criticise other people maybe you should dig these out and do a real comparison.
Telling people they are 'flash haters' because they offered advice you didn't agree with is a tad immature.