thank you all for good feedback, alot of what your saying is making sense.
just want to get somewhere from the basic place im at, im no designer at all, im only good doing the backend stuff
about colors and header, im thinking about going more in the direction of http://www.thinkgeek.com/gadgets/tools/a905/
what you guys think of thinkgeeks design? i like some of it, not all of it, but parts are good.